"Your body isn't broken," my physical therapist said.
"What you're experiencing is a support problem. It happens to most people with back pain, bad hips, or stiff joints. Especially after 50."
"Let me show you what's happening."
She pulled out her notepad.
"During intimacy, your body is doing two things at once. Moving AND supporting itself.
For someone with healthy joints, no problem.
But when you've got back issues or bad hips or stiff knees? That's where everything falls apart."
"Think about it.
You're holding yourself up on your arms. Arching your back. Flexing your hips past where they want to go. Grinding your knees into the mattress.
Every position demands something from the exact parts of your body that are already struggling."
"And here's what most people don't realize.
The right support takes the weight off your joints. So your body can move without carrying the load."
"Wait," I said. "So the pain isn't because my body is giving out? It's because it's doing too much at once?"
"Exactly." She smiled.
"Think of it like reading glasses. Your eyes aren't broken. They just need the right tool now.
Same with intimacy. The right support changes everything."